Many years ago — I mean, decades ago — in my first column-writing life, I wrote about saying goodbye.

In those years the column was called “New View.” I was much younger, of course, and for a while it was carried in about two dozen papers across the state. My slogan was from the “Smokies to the Sea.” Now, was that a bit, well, puffed up, or what?

Most of the papers in which “New View” appeared were non-dailies. Only a couple were dailies.

All of which isn’t very interesting or important, I admit. But hey. It’s a part of my history. My story.

So much for my rationalization for repeating a “New View” column written in 1978.

Anyway, here it is:

Sometimes it’s rather frustrating to attempt to articulate certain feelings, or emotions, in the knowledge that about all you’re doing is botching things up.

Well, through the years I’ve come to feel that one of man’s most difficult tasks — one that is so often done so poorly; not by intent, but because of some inexplicable, perhaps imponderable something, is, simply, saying “goodbye.”

Goodbye can be bitter or sweet, lingering or brief, but never easy. And seldom well done. More often than not, goodbye is painful. Watch the goodbyes in an airport. (In another age it would have been the train station.) As a silent observer I have sometimes felt almost caught in the crunch of others’ goodbyes. My heart goes out to them. I’ve been there too. Haven’t we all?

The young, oh, so young boys (and girls) in uniform seem so forlorn. Watching mom or dad, or sweetheart, say goodbye to a kid in khaki is a poignant portrait in pathos.

There are, I suppose, two main “kinds” of goodbyes. Painful though it surely must seem, saying goodbye for a while isn’t fatal. Saying goodbye, for good, is emotion-rending. (And most American men try not to show it.)

I recall the utter awkwardness of trying to say goodbye to service buddies, when we all knew we’d never see one another again. Ever. There aren’t words suited to the occasion. Rather, suitable words simply won’t come, because the trembling in the voice, the catch in the throat, the mist in the eyes, makes it all so impossible.

How searing it is to say goodbye to a friend, to a loved one, to a lover. Soul searing. Whatever the case, whatever the circumstance, whatever the resolve to be in control of one’s feelings, the goodbye comes so hard. So terribly hard.

Goodbye, a cutting soul-and-heart-wrenching word, never comes easily for people whose feelings run deep. Sensitive people hurt more. They gain more, too.

Goodbye can be necessary. It can be a blessing, though often times well disguised.

Goodbye can be for a day. It can be forever.

It can rarely, if ever, be easy.

APROPOS — “To leave is to die a little/ It is to die to what one loves/ One leaves behind a little of oneself/ At any hour, any place.”

— Edmund Haracourt